She was one day old baby girl; not a disobedient grown up child or a terrorist that she should have been abandoned. But unfortunately she was thrown in basket not for some of her crime but for her parents crime; thanks to the thrower who wrapped her in a polythene bag. This was disclosed when People collecting Garbage in DHA-Lahore realized a life in garbage regardless of human or animal.
When my maid told me this story early in the morning; i felt an ache in heart; How inhumane and bestial act it was to throw a small one day baby into garbage. Obviously there are hundred questions remained unanswered as her parents could not be found. Though Police will follow the case. Thanks to our social system that has lead us to this stage where on yearly basis several hundred babies are thrown this way. This is not one single case but hundreds of the type can be witnessed daily? Organizations like Edhi Foundation pick them and rear these abandoned children till they are adults.
First thought that struck into my mind on hearing this melancholy was: she was illegitimate child of some maid who became a victim of rape by her employer. Second worst thought shrugged me was her father might have wanted to get rid of her; as he already was having two or three baby girls to nourish. Third thing becoming very common in Pakistan is due to poverty people either sell their children or throw. My maid told about the complexion was fair and looked healthy; she was wearing pink dress and small cap too on inquiring about her appearance. Thus i concluded she could not have been shun for any appearance reasons of complexion or physical disability. yeah as she will grow up she must develop mental disability over the attitude her parents adopted towards that innocent child.
In every case my heart sinks for her mother; who probably knowingly dumped or her daughter was snatched from her. Many questions arise in mind if i empathize her situation; How would she be reacting to loss if her daughter stolen? How if she was victim of rape and this baby was a symbol of abhorrence for her? or she would be crying if her husband has intentionally got rid of this third or may be fourth baby girl. Or that mother was forced by her parents for getting free herself from this illegitimate baby as a social stigma on her character. Any case may it be a life was destroyed. How the conscience of parents would allow them to live a satisfied life?
Woman retains baby for whole nine months in wombs; affiliations start growing the day they come to know they are pregnant. Only a woman can know how her pregnancy deals with her and how difficultly she bears her child and lastly having baby is feeling of completing oneself. I wonder once completing how can she disassociate herself from her children? Word “pregnancy” immediately brings one word in mind and that is “Congratulations”. Congratulations to her mother for getting rid of the most beautiful gift by Allah. Drones and Bomb Blasts killing several hundreds of people in Pakistan yearly; these attacks and blasts are heart breaking to larger extents and bring misery to the members of families. These attacks and blasts are not our self opted notions and imposed on us but shunning your child is purely our own choice.
When society changed its behavior towards that girl; why should she not change the norms of society? People stop complaining about flourishing unethical norms in society and stop saying old times were better. And start saying Older people were better who cared for honor selflessly, who protected societal norms, who cared for their children to make them constructive part of society and who cared for humanity.
Does that baby know what fate she acquired just after coming under the sun; or what treatment her own parents gave to her? Had she been knowing she would have refused to come to this world. She once will grow up will question herself if she was so uncalled for why her mother decided to give birth to her; my mother could have aborted me to avoid giving me a miserable life; she would assume probably it was too late and dangerous for her to abort me and she could not risked her life and destroyed mine. She would probably hate being a mother or even if she becomes somehow that i doubt will she be able to give normal life to her kids; for she had a complete abnormal life that she will instill in babies too. Will the society become suddenly cooperative towards her? and who will make sure that she being girl will not again suffer beastly by society. She would question that why her parents didn’t slaughter her on birth instead of leaving her on mercy of the world; why they became kind for keeping me alive, oh yeah!!! for them it would be sin to murder daughter and reminded them of ignorance age when daughters were either buried alive or slaughtered.
Blood will drip from her heart and she will feel the salt of hatred on her tongue; she would want to get rid of this blood; who’s DNA helps determining the identity of parents but she will not be able to do so. Blood running into her veins will become curse for her whole of life; and next day she will call sacred nuptial relationship just a dirt and frustration. She will call the man’s serum and woman’s menstrual blood filth; the union of both initiate the reproduction process and sacred relation gives birth to human being. She would think if she was filth and deserved to be in filth on first day of life; she should return to filth one can imagine what havoc such minds can create.