It’s a sad state of affairs when a man has no clue that his woman is going to dump him, but stories abound of men who thought their relationships were just hunky dory, and then the next thing they knew, their wives / girlfriends up and left.
What struck me about the most of the dumping stories I heard was the absolute blindness these men including me myself once exhibited with regard to the health of their relationships.
I suppose a woman could pretend to be happy but if a relationship is that far gone, you can be sure there were clues. In fact there were probably huge fire-engine red banners that read, “I’m really unhappy! I can’t take it anymore!” waving all over the place.
Just how do you know if a woman is close to the point of leaving?
If a woman is thinking of abandoning the relationship, she is likely to behave in one or more of the following ways:
She no longer complains about something she used to nag about all the time. Why bother, she figures, since she’ll be gone soon anyway.
She doesn’t confide in you anymore and avoids talking in general.
She comes home late, spends more time alone, makes plans without you, and generally tries to avoid you as much as possible.
She’s lost interest in sex.
She doesn’t seem glad to see you anymore at the end of the day.
She’s not interested in talking about plans for the weekend or any plans in the future. She has a whatever attitude.
She doesn’t like to be touched, hugged, or kissed. Her kisses have no passion.
Her friends and family act a little different around you. (They are uncomfortable because she has told them she wants to leave you.)
If you think your woman may be on the verge of dumping you, then here’s an assignment: sit your partner down and ask her point blank how she feels the relationship is going. Be prepared to get an earful. Don’t say anything other than to encourage her to say whatever is on her mind. And don’t defend yourself, regardless of what she says. The point is to get her to tell you everything, no matter how much it might hurt.
If she says she wants to leave, or is just very unhappy, ask her if she is willing to work on things together by going to see a therapist. Indicate your willingness to do whatever it takes to get back on track with her. Follow through with your words by finding a therapist and making the first appointment.
Note for women :: I know u cant avoid reading this only for men topic. Sweetos, if any of you unfortunately reaches the same point as I have mentioned here, and your Dumbos come back to you with an option to see a therapist, please please please… listen to them and give it a last shot… I tried that too, but she was a bit too convinced on leaving me and we never saw a therapist…
Back to Men, So where was I … hmmm – Deea it was your job to remember, isn’t it…
You may be very shocked at the intensity of her feeling of unhappiness because you had no idea what she was going through. This is a wake-up call for many men and if you don’t want to lose her, you’ll have to let go of the naive idea that “everything was going just fine.” It wasn’t fine!
This situation, scary and painful though it is, can be a tremendous opportunity to grow and become a better person. And it can be the beginning of a much better relationship. (Assuming she is willing to hang around to give it one more chance.) Even though you might have believed you were happy before, the growing pains of relationship therapy will show you just how much better it can be. But it’s not easy. You have to be willing to face some not so pleasant aspects about yourself and admit your weaknesses, a very tall order for most men.
Don’t let your woman dump you. Take some action to fix what’s making her so unhappy.
And even if all of your efforts fail, and you have finally made it to the capital “D” title, no need to worry… Give me a call, hangout with me over the sheesha, or wait till I write next on how to survive a breakup.
And all the women still sticking to this till end – my next note would be on interesting topic as suggested by someone %$&^ …. Men have PMS too – keep your fingers crossed